Archive for the ‘Hawaii’ Category

Reuben Walks!

October 4, 2007

It’s been pretty neat to watch Reuben learning to walk. For the last couple months he’s wandered around the world holding onto people’s hands.

If you were to let go of his hand, he would immediately pursue the safest course of action and sit down. Instincts at work. Over a two day period he decided walking around on his own wouldn’t be so bad and off he went. This video is from day two of hands-free walking.

(video here)

We are so screwed.


happy mother’s day!

May 13, 2007

(Insert mother’s day video here)

imagine a real fresh start!

May 13, 2007

I enjoyed this video (1 hr, 26 mins), about a man with total amnesia rediscovering who he is and meeting all his old friends again for the first time. Lots of interesting questions are raised such as how much of our personalities are based on our life experiences and how much are innate. The film maker does a nice job of raising these questions and making you think but ultimately letting you answer these questions on your own.

It’s kind of long to watch on the computer though, it’ll be nice when it’s easier to pipe this stuff to the living room.

ruby loves the wind

May 4, 2007

I’ve always loved the idea that having kids would mean seeing the world all over again. When we’re with someone seeing something for the first time, we get to ride along and it’s always a bit magical.

With a baby this young it’s even more delightful, because he doesn’t hide his feelings. Everything you see is exactly how he feels it, with no filters between him and the world.

He loves to lie on the bed and feel the wind passing over him. He’s come to associate the curtain moving with the wind coming.

Watch his hands. They express the almost overwhelming feeling of what he’s experiencing as well as any words.

(Rueben under breeze video here)

Uploading this for Evgenya who’s landing in Australia on her way to observe there for a few nights… The pirate boys are flying solo, and frozen food never tasted so … so when are you coming home babe?


tuff guy

May 1, 2007

tuff guy video of Reuben

Hope you like it! If it’s choppy Evgenya also uploaded it here.


girls’ names and math scores

April 30, 2007

A recent study concludes that giving a girl a feminine name (eg. Elizabeth) makes her less likely to do well at math and science. The idea is that other people’s expectations of her will be influenced by the name, and they will in turn influence the girl. Makes sense.

Perhaps someday I will have a daughter. School will be fun for her. “Class, this is the new student, Smarty Handsoff.”

– aaron

Programmed to be Happy – what a relief!

April 12, 2007

This is officially my first blog post… My involvement in the blogosphere has long been encouraged by Aaron but I’ve never felt like I had the time or the interest in connecting with people through the internet. That’s why I pay a bunch of money for unlimited long-distance. And, certainly parenthood isn’t making MORE free time for me to blog. So, why now? Well, it is precisely because of the fact that I’ve become so busy, that I’ve needed to find new ways to connect. And all this busy-ness is due to some fascinating life changes and experiences that make me even more interested in communicating with people about these topics, especially with those are in similar roles. And for me, these roles include women in science, budding astronomers, educators, working mothers, guilty mothers (or are those two the same?), first-time mothers, wives of husbands of first-time mothers, etc. Plus, I have posts swirling around in my head about a few less-important of my societal roles such as jaywalker, tax-payer, patient of the American health-care system, Canadian living in the USA, frequent flyer, resenter of the ’self-help’ industry, lover of Netflix & Craigslist, hedonist, and so on…

I envision my blog posts to be places to discuss these topics with my friends (and anyone else who wants to visit) when we can’t make that Sunday afternoon phone-date like the good old days.

(Please ignore the poor spelling and grammar as i’m just going to freely type. Plus, aaron edits enough of my writing already so I won’t bother him with this.)

So, let’s get started… (and I promise the posts won’t all be about motherhood.)

Aaron and I watched a seminar online last night entitled “The (Misguided) Pursuit of Happiness” by Dan Gilbert which can be found here . It’s 21 minutes long and is entertaining and worth watching, though the point is made early on: Synthetic Happiness vs Natural Happiness, is one more valuable than the other? No!

There are wide-spread implications for what Dr. Gilbert is saying here but I’m particularly interested in reviewing this concept in the context of motherhood, and even further focusing on motherhood when working outside the home and when working inside the home. Which makes us happier? [Now a selfless mother might say it’s not about our happiness but about what is best for the children. Perhaps. But as Aaron likes to say, “When Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!”]

According to Gilbert, the two options will make us equally happy because within a relatively short period of time, we will just simply be happy with whichever decision we made. Why? Because we are programmed to make lemonade from lemons while convincing ourselves that we were destined to drink this lemonade, and that we’ve never really wanted the ice tea in the first place. And furthermore, those that choose the ice tea don’t know what they’re missing!

Of my female friends with babies, most of those in Canada have chosen to take their full 1-year maternity leave, and then return to work. A few have decided to stay home full time, and some have even started kick-ass businesses while being at home (e.g. Alison’s sexy nursing bras – ). For those of us in the U.S. where the term “maternity leave” has yet to evolve from a 6-week, unpaid recovery, we’re all back at work pretty fast leaving our babies with sitters and pumping breast milk at every opportunity.

So, after seeing this seminar on Happiness and trying to objectively assess your choices, would you consider your current state as natural or synthesized happiness? Are you truly happy with your decision to work at home or at the office?

[It’s likely that all the new-mother hormones will skew the results, but it’s still worth thinking about. If you have a comment, please include it by clicking on the comment link below.]

– Evgenya


April 10, 2007

choice, happiness and self-delusion

reuben at six months

April 2, 2007

reuben at six months young.

reuben@6months video clip

If the video’s choppy it’s also here

hmm, been awhile

April 1, 2007

Time to start posting again. It won’t always be about hawaii, but we’ll try to post more often. :)

To start things off… this is pretty neat.